I tried to explain to my therapist once, when I had one, that I didn't feel particularly attached to my gender. There were the physical bits, which were generally more inconvenient than anything else, and the cultural bits, which were for the most part negative, and really, what was there to like? But she seemed confused as to why I brought it up at all, since it wasn't that I felt I was male, only that being female was a culturally-imposed part of my identity rather than anything especially inherent about me.

Which I suppose is a long way of saying, you're not alone. You're not a freak. And it helps me to know that I'm not the only one frustrated by a lack of an unmarked state. (Or how so many people want to treat male as the unmarked state, when by god, it's not.)

I long for the advent of swappable robot bodies, where I can be sexed or sexless as happens to please me or be convenient. But somehow I don't think they're showing up in my lifetime.